Funeral Service Etiquette: Know Your Do's and Don'ts

Mangano Family Funeral Homes • February 1, 2021

When you need to attend a funeral service, you’ll want to ensure that you follow the appropriate etiquette. You don’t want to break the written and unwritten rules, so make sure you know what to do.

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Are you preparing to attend a funeral service at a funeral home in North Babylon, NY? One thing you might not be aware of is that there are some etiquette rules that apply in such situations. It’s important to know what the written and unwritten rules are so that you don’t do anything or wear anything that you shouldn’t. Here are some etiquette rules to keep in mind. 


DO – Express Condolences at the Funeral Service 


It's always a good idea to express your condolences. You don't have to say a whole lot. You might, for instance, approach a grieving friend at a funeral service and say, "I'm sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers." This would convey that you care. In the event that you can’t make the funeral service, then a sympathy card would be appropriate. 


DON’T – Dress Inappropriately 


While you no longer have to wear all black at the funeral service, that doesn’t mean you can wear whatever you want. Stay away from clothing that is too short, too tight, or too loud. A good rule of thumb is to wear the sort of outfit that you would put on were you to go to a job interview. 


DO – Offer a Gift 


You don’t have to spend an arm and a leg for a sympathy gift, of course. But offering a sympathy gift is a good idea. These small tokens of kindness will show that you care. You can send a bouquet of flowers, a basket filled with anything from baked goods to fresh fruit, a gift card from the grieving person’s favorite restaurant or grocery store, or something else. 


DON’T – Leave Your Cellphone On 


Don’t forget to turn off your phone. Leaving it on vibrate mode is not enough since people seated nearby will still be able to hear it should someone call you during the funeral service. You don’t want to be the person whose cellphone goes off while someone is reading the eulogy. The best-case scenario is for you to leave the phone locked away securely in your vehicle or to leave it at home. But if you must take it with you, turn it off before the funeral service starts. 


 When you need to find a reputable funeral home serving North Babylon, NY families, we’re here to help you. We’re a professional death care service provider dedicated to helping families who need to arrange funerals and cremations. We can also help people who want to preplan. Understanding that people who come to us are oftentimes unfamiliar with the planning process, our goal is to make the process as straightforward as possible for our clients. Let our funeral director answer your questions and help you with body disposition planning. You’ll get details on what planning entails, receive recommendations and tips, get answers to your questions, and much more. Get a hold of us by phone or visit us in person. And you can also get some more funeral service etiquette tips on our website at https://www.manganofh.com/.


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