Eugene Alexander Pacholk

Eugene Alexander Pacholk

November 10, 1952 — July 1, 2026

     Eugene Alexander Pacholk passed away on July 1, 2026, in Bay Shore, NY. He leaves behind a legacy defined entirely by his humility, his quiet devotion, and a fierce, protective love for his family. Born on November 10, 1952, in Riverhead, NY, Eugene grew up surrounded by the gentle rhythm of Long Island’s waterways—a place that always held a piece of his heart. 

     From his earliest days, Eugene’s entire world revolved around the people he loved. Rather than pursuing outside accolades, he poured his immense work ethic right back into his family, dedicating his life to supporting them and ensuring they had everything they needed to continue running their beloved family duck farm in Speonk. He was a man of remarkable humility, someone who never looked for a pat on the back, preferring instead to show his love through quiet, tireless acts of dedication.

     Eugene was the absolute rock of his family. He shared a beautiful life with his wife, Wendy—a love story that spanned 49 years of marriage, though they were happily together for more than five incredible decades. Their bond stood as a testament to true partnership, perseverance, and deep mutual respect. As a dad to Aaron Pacholk and Abaigeal Hillyard, Eugene was a constant source of wisdom and unwavering support. He welcomed his daughter-in-law, Loren, and his son-in-law, Joshua Hillyard, into the family with open arms and that same steady love.  His greatest joy, however, might have been his role as "Poppy." It was a name revered with love by his grandchildren: Michaela Hillyard, Elliana Pacholk, and Luke Pacholk. His warmth completely enveloped them, and his eyes lit up whenever they were in the room.  

     Outside of his family, Eugene knew how to appreciate the simple pleasures in life. He loved the pure thrill of the racetrack, whether he was watching the pounding hooves of horse racing or listening to the roar of NASCAR engines. Yet, he was always happiest by the water. He spent countless peaceful hours clamming and taking in the breeze by the bay—even if, ever the practical guy, he was quick to complain about the sticky summer heat and humidity that came with it.  Eugene embodied the very best virtues of kindness and devotion. His legacy isn't made of grand public gestures, but of a million small, loving moments that built a safe, beautiful life for the family he treasured above all else.

     He is survived by his beloved wife and partner of over 50 years, Wendy Pacholk; his devoted son Aaron and his wife Loren; his loving daughter Abaigeal and her husband Joshua Hillyard; and his three adoring grandchildren, Michaela, Elliana, and Luke. Each of them carries forward his memory, forever shaped by the good man he was and the love he gave so freely.