The Keys to Hosting a Wake

Mangano Family Funeral Homes • October 2, 2022

Wakes are a very common part of funerals. They allow for family and friends to gather together so that they can speak about and share memories of the deceased.

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Oftentimes, funerals will be seen as events all on their own. The event that takes place inside of a church is usually the only part that gets any attention. But a traditional funeral is made up of the wake, the funeral, and then the eventual burial. While everyone knows what funerals and burials are, wakes are often left in the dark. That could be because there are numerous ways for families to go about hosting a wake. The wake, if you choose to have one, can be whatever you would like it to be. If you and your family are interested in learning more about wakes, you can contact cremation services in Deer Park, NY. They would love to help you with any questions that you may have. 


What Is a Wake? How Do They Work? 


Wakes are gatherings of friends and family members. These gatherings are meant to be a time when people come together to remember the person who has passed away. In many cases, wakes happen before the funeral itself. This can happen a few days before the funeral, or maybe even on the same day of the funeral, but a few hours before. The decision of when the wake occurs is completely up to the family. 


Do I Have to Have A Wake? 


No. Wakes are nice to have, but they aren’t something that everyone has to do. Many people will choose to have wakes because it allows for family members and friends who may not be able to make it to the actual funeral to come and pay their respects. This is one of the upsides to wakes. A wake is also an opportunity for people to speak with the family of the deceased. After things get going at the funeral, there may not be a chance to do so. 


What Things Make a Wake Good? 


Like everything to do with a funeral, what you decide to have in your loved one’s wake is all up to you. Where you decide to have the wake is one of the biggest decisions you will have to make. If it is to be in a church, then a lot of things will already be prepared and ready for you. But if it is somewhere else, then you can decide on what will be available, and how the event will flow. Below are a few things to take into consideration when it comes to planning a wake. 


·    Refreshments – If you are planning to have a wake at your home a few days before the funeral, then you have the choice of whether or not you want to provide food. While food offers nourishment, it can also play a part in allowing people to feel at ease. Finger foods would be best for a wake. 


·    Location – As stated above, the location of your wake is a big decision. You could have it at the church, funeral home, your own home, or maybe somewhere else. Wherever you decide to have the wake, you should make sure that the venue can provide you with what you need. 


·    Photos/Videos/Music. – Having some sort of media going while the wake is taking place would be a great idea. This would allow people an opportunity to see photos and videos of the deceased and even relive some memories. This, too, would allow people to open up more. 


While wakes are not necessary for every funeral, they can be very beneficial. If you and your family are wanting to host a wake, you can contact cremation services in Deer Park, NY. They can help you with any questions that you may have. 


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